Some work friends and I were recently discussing things that men can not criticize their girlfriends about. It was astounding how incorrect us guys were when trying to lay out our "rights" in terms of constructive criticism. The women in the office were appalled at what we thought we were allowed to talk about. If I could figure out what I am allowed to criticize and what I should stay away from, I'd avoid arguments and do a better job of hitting on girls.

    I'm guilty of saying things to women that only their best girlfriends, gay male friends, and moms/sisters are allowed to say. I put together a list below:

    Weight

    There is no friendly way for a guy to tell a girl that she's put on weight. Even if there was a friendly way, most of the women I've talked to about it said they would not want to hear it from a guy. It seems obvious, but not all guys know this. We polled some of the guys in our office, and the prevailing male opinion was as long as she's your girlfriend, or you've known each other for a while, then you can make weight loss suggestions. I think the best policy is silence. If I"m desperate to make a suggestion, maybe I tell one of her girlfriends to do it on my behalf.

    Outfit

    I think I'm only allowed to say someone generally looks nice, or I like her shirt or whatever. Getting too detailed or negative gets me in trouble. In fact, I attempted to "add on" to a compliment I gave a girl once. I told her she looked great, because she had a new outfit on. Now, remembering those times I saw my sisters or friends bark back "thanks, and just $30 from Target," I tried to double up on my compliment: "and it looks like you didn't pay much money either." She ended up crying. I've been told by women that they dress more to impress other women anyway, and not guys. Basically, I need to stick to "you look great" and leave it there. And I should probably avoid saying I don't like something a girl is wearing. That can only lead to no good.

    Friends/Family

    We've all dated people with annoying friends. But, people consider their friends as extensions of themselves so if you criticize friends, you're criticizing your significant other indirectly. My older sister has a good system of putting the word "that" in front of any of her husband's friends that annoy her. "Oh you're going with that Mike to the concert?" It's not an aggressive attack, just a little poke. Family is the same rule, but you probably get in even more trouble if you criticize the family of a significant other.

    Driving

    Every guy thinks he's a better driver than his girlfriend. I can learn a lot from my little sister's boyfriend. One day, my sister was driving the two of us to Baltimore for a weekend. My sister is a really bad driver. She doesn't brake when she sees brake lights ahead until she absolutely has to. This leads to passenger whiplash and nausea. During this trip I said: "you know, you can brake earlier- that way you're not slamming on the brakes at the last minute and making us all sick." She said: "do I do that?" I turned around to her boyfriend for confirmation and he simply said: "no comment". My sister's boyfriend loves me because I am allowed to verbalize all the criticisms that he's thinking.

    I like the "no comment" policy. But I can't stand not to give my opinion to women, even when it's bad. I want to learn the things I should hold off from criticizing about women. Do you agree with the items above? What do you hate being criticized about by guys?

    最zui近jin，我wo和he一yi些xie工gong作zuo上shang的de朋peng友you在zai討tao論lun男nan人ren不bu能neng對dui女nv人ren的de哪na些xie方fang麵mian評ping頭tou論lun足zu的de問wen題ti。討tao論lun的de結jie果guo是shi我wo們men都dou很hen驚jing訝ya於yu男nan人ren們men平ping時shi對dui女nv人ren的de評ping頭tou論lun足zu是shi多duo麼me的de不bu正zheng確que。在zai辦ban公gong室shi裏li女nv同tong事shi們men經jing常chang被bei我wo們men自zi認ren為wei可ke以yi談tan論lun的de內nei容rong嚇xia到dao。要yao是shi我wo知zhi道dao要yao避bi諱hui什shen麼me的de話hua，我wo就jiu不bu會hui和he女nv同tong事shi或huo女nv朋peng友you發fa生sheng口kou頭tou上shang的de衝chong突tu，而er是shi和he她ta們men和he諧xie相xiang處chu了le。

    我對說了隻有女性的閨密、同性戀朋友、和母親或姐妹才可以說的話而感到抱歉。以下是我對這些值得道歉的話的一個總結：

    體重

    ruguoniyaoshuoyigenvshengbianpangle，natayidinghuibeinidezui。jishiniyonghenyouhaodefangshiduitamenshuo
，tamenyebutaiyuanyicongyigenanxingdekouzhongtingdaozheyangdehua。zhekanlaixianeryijian，danyouxienanxingquekanbudaozheyidian。womentiaozhaguobangongshilidenantongshi，nanxingdezhuliuxiangfashiruguoduifangshinidenvpengyouhuozheshishushidenvxing，nijiukeyijianyitamenbaochishencai。worenwei，womenzuihaohaishiduicibaochichenmo。ruguowozhendehenxiangjianyitajianfeidehua，yexuwohuiqingtadenvxingpengyoulaidailao。

    裝束

    我wo覺jiao得de我wo隻zhi能neng說shuo她ta們men看kan起qi來lai很hen好hao或huo者zhe她ta們men穿chuan的de襯chen衣yi或huo者zhe類lei似si的de東dong西xi。如ru果guo說shuo的de太tai具ju體ti或huo者zhe有you什shen麼me負fu麵mian的de評ping論lun會hui給gei我wo帶dai來lai麻ma煩fan。有you一yi次ci，我wo想xiang好hao好hao讚zan揚yang一yi個ge女nv孩hai。我wo說shuo她ta因yin為wei穿chuan著zhe新xin裙qun子zi
，所suo以yi看kan起qi來lai很hen棒bang。那na時shi
，我wo想xiang起qi我wo的de姐jie妹mei或huo朋peng友you長chang回hui敬jing我wo的de話hua："謝謝，30塊錢從Target買的".我想再對那女該讚賞幾句： "看起來這件衣服好像很便宜的樣子。"結果我把她弄哭了。女同胞們告訴我，女人穿衣服是要給別的女人留下深刻印象，而不是為了男人。一般情況下，我應該隻說一句："你看起來真棒"然後就好了。而且我還應該避免說我不喜歡某個女生的著裝，因為那樣做沒有一點好處。

    朋友/家人

    我wo們men都dou和he有you煩fan人ren朋peng友you的de人ren約yue會hui過guo。然ran而er，人ren們men認ren為wei朋peng友you是shi他ta們men自zi身shen的de延yan伸shen，所suo以yi在zai你ni批pi評ping他ta朋peng友you的de同tong時shi，你ni變bian相xiang的de批pi評ping了le你ni重zhong要yao的de另ling一yi半ban。我wo姐jie姐jie經jing常chang會hui在zai我wo姐jie夫fu朋peng友you中zhong讓rang她ta討tao厭yan的de人ren前qian麵mian加jia一yi個ge"那個"."噢
，你要和那個麥克去看演唱會
？"這句活語氣並沒有很強烈，隻是表示小小的不滿。談論家人時的道理是一樣的，為了避免大的麻煩，最好不要批評另一半的家人。

    駕駛技巧

    meigenanrendourenweizijidejiashijishubinvpengyoudeyaohao。jiuzheyidian
，wocongmeimeidenanpengyounalixuelehenduo。yitian，meimeikaichezaizhewohetananpengyouqubeierdimoduzhoumo。tadekaichejishuqueshihenlan。tazhiyoudaofeishachebukedeshihoucaicaixiashache
，genbenbugushachedengdecunzai。zherangwomenbeishouzhemo，funeifanjiangdaohai。lushangwojiuduitashuo："你能早點踩刹車嗎，那樣我們就不會因急停感到惡心了。"她卻說："我有這樣嗎
？"我扭過頭向他男朋友尋求確認，他談談的說了一句："不予置評".妹妹的男朋友很喜歡我因為我把他想說卻不能說的都說啦。

    我很喜歡"不予置評"decelve。danwozongshirenbuzhuyaogeinvxingtidianjianyi，jishiwozhidaonayangbuhao。woxiangzhidaowoyinggaibihuideyixiehuati。nitongyiwoliechudezhexieneirongma
？niyehentaoyanbeinanrenpingtoulunzuma？