Sticky Eyes

    When you are talking to your quarry, let your eyes stay glued to his or hers a little longer than necessary - even during silences. A gaze that lingers awakens primal, slightly disturbing feelings. It induces the same "fight or flight" chemicals that race through our veins when we feel infatuation. When you must look away, do so reluctantly. Drag your eyes away slowly. This is a particularly good technique for men to use, as women always want to feel that a man is absolutely fascinated by them.

    The Visual Voyage

    As you and your date are chatting, let your eyes do some traveling - but only on safe ground at first. Take a visual voyage all over his or her face, concentrating on their eyes. If he or she seems to be enjoying your expedition, take small side trips to the neck, shoulders and torso. For girls, take sneak peeks at his body - and when he sees you pretend you are a little embarrassed. This should really get his juices flowing and is a great way to get a friend to think of you sexually. For the man this technique is a little more dangerous, so be wary. If your eyes travel too far south for too long you'll be in trouble.

    Expensive Dining

    This is good for a gentleman who intends to pick up the bill on the first date. Make sure you take your date to an expensive restaurant with an atmosphere like the one you wish to project - be it elegant, upbeat, cool or arty. Atmosphere is important because she will transfer her feelings about the room to you. It may be superficial, but women tend to judge a man on the first place he takes them.

    Dress to Impress

    Even when seeking only a casual liaison, do not go out dressed like an unmade bed. Dress as though you were auditioning to be his or her husband or wife. Men must make sure they are coordinated and dress affluently: women love good quality clothes on men. Women need to dress alluringly but not in a cheap way. He is going to mentally undress you anyway, so there is no need for that short skirt. However, you might want to try a slightly more revealing second layer of clothes so that you can, at the right moment, take off that jacket and reveal some wonderful cleavage.

    Give First Date Butterflies

    When planning your first date, find out what pulls your date's strings, and then plan an arousing, emotional adventure. You don't have to go sky-diving, but a little shared danger is a proven aphrodisiac. A scary movie is an easy way to achieve this - or perhaps ice-skating, where the woman may be nervous and might have to hold on tight. Afterwards, go out for dinner or a drink to discuss your shared experience.

    Co-react

    To capture your quarry's heart, you need to share his or her convictions and show that you feel them deeply. Watch his or her reactions to outside stimuli, then show the same emotions - shock, disgust, humour, compassion, etc. This is particularly important for men, who are more inclined to misjudge situations. Make sure your reactions suit the mood.

    Smile

    A simple but crucial technique. A smile is the most effective form of body language and a great way to let somebody know that you are interested in them. As you are looking at or talking to a member of the opposite sex whom you wish to seduce, let a soft smile of acceptance frame your lips. Don't give too quick a smile: just let a slow one float over your face. This will seem much more genuine - while making your romantic intentions obvious.

    How do you feel about that?

    A good tip for men: pluck up some courage and, whatever your quarry is discussing, simply ask her, "How do you feel about that?" It might seem awkward at first, but woman love to talk about how they feel and will nearly always respond enthusiastically. Women, on the other hand, should wait until a relationship is on stable ground before asking a man much about his feelings - otherwise there is a danger of rocking the boat before it is launched.

    Let Your Quarry Pass an 'Audition'

    Men should not ask a woman out too soon, lest she think you are interested only in her looks. The ideal time to ask a woman for a date is when she has said something relevant to her personality. For example, if she says something spiritual, say that you'd love to hear more about that, perhaps over dinner. A woman values interest all the more if she feels that you appreciate her inner qualities. Women, meanwhile, can move faster, as men are less afraid of being treated as sex objects.

    Have the First Laugh

    Another obvious but important technique. Women: make sure you laugh at your quarry's jokes and, when in a group, be the first to laugh. It brings you closer together. Men should try and introduce cute private jokes to create a bond between the two of you. This will help to make you seem like long-time lovers rather than first-date strangers.

    眼神交流

    dangnihetashuohuashi，zhushiduifangdeshuangmou，shenzhizaibubiyaoshinaizhichenmoshi。zhushikeyijianjiandehuanxingyuanshide，shaoshaolingrenxindongdeqinggan。takeyirangyouyubujuedetachanshenghuaxuefanying
，tongguojingmaideliudong，duiwomenchanshengmilian。dangnibixubamuguangyikaishi，jideyaobiaoxiandehenbuqingyuan。bashuangmou，manmandenuokai。youqiduiyunanxinglaishuo，zheshiyigejishuhuo
，yinweinvxingzongshixiangyaorangnanrenduitamenjueduidezhemi。

    視覺之旅

    當你和你的約會對象聊天時，讓你的眼睛稍作一些"旅行"--danshishouxianyaozaianquandidai。zaitahuotademianbuzhushi，ranhouzhuanzhuyutamendeshuangyan。ruguotahuotasihuhenxiangshounidexinshang
，zaixiaofududetiaozhengnidemuguangfanweizhijingbu，jianbuyijizhiti。duiyunvhaizilaishuo，yaoxiaoxindetoukuitadeshenti，eryidanbeitafaxian，yaozhuangchuyifuxiaogangadeyangzi。zheyangyinggaikeyizhendededaotadefangxin，erqiejueduishirangrenrenweinixinggandehaobanfa。duiyunanxinglaishuozhegejiqiaoyouyidianweixian
，suoyiyaojinshen。ruguonideyanjing"長途跋涉"的太靠下了，你就有麻煩了。

    奢華的晚餐

    對於紳士來說，這是一個在第一次約會上成功的好方案。一定要帶你的女伴去一個與之氣質相符高級餐廳--或huo優you雅ya，或huo歡huan快kuai，或huo冷leng酷ku
，或huo附fu庸yong風feng雅ya。在zai這zhe裏li，氣qi氛fen很hen重zhong要yao。因yin為wei她ta對dui你ni的de感gan覺jiao會hui隨sui房fang屋wu給gei她ta的de感gan覺jiao而er變bian化hua。這zhe也ye許xu膚fu淺qian，但dan是shi女nv士shi們men往wang往wang通tong過guo男nan士shi第di一yi次ci帶dai她ta去qu的de地di方fang來lai評ping判pan他ta們men。

    服飾印象

    jibianzhishixunqiuyizhonglinshidelianxi，yebuyaochumenrengjiuchuanzhejiajufu。chuanzhedabanshiyaobazijixiangxiangchengtadezhangfuhuoqizi。nanshibixuquebaotadeyifuhexieqiegaodang：nvrenxihuanchuanzheyoupinzhideyifudenanren。nvshizexudabandeyourenerbuqingfu。tahuizaidanaoligeinikuanyi，suoyimeibiyaozhijiechuanduanqun。raner，nikeyizailimianchuanyijianshaoweibaoludiandeyifu
，zheyangzaishidangdeshihou
，tuoxiawaitao，xiuchunidejingcai

    給第一次約會一點刺激

    當dang規gui劃hua你ni的de第di一yi次ci約yue會hui時shi，找zhao出chu並bing標biao記ji你ni的de日ri期qi

，然ran後hou計ji劃hua一yi個ge激ji發fa情qing緒xu的de冒mao險xian之zhi旅lv。不bu必bi非fei要yao高gao空kong跳tiao傘san
，但dan稍shao微wei分fen享xiang一yi些xie危wei險xian是shi一yi劑ji好hao的de催cui情qing藥yao。恐kong怖bu片pian
，或huo者zhe溜liu冰bing
，都dou是shi簡jian單dan的de冒mao險xian之zhi旅lv。它ta會hui讓rang女nv生sheng緊jin張zhang
，進jin而er依yi賴lai男nan性xing。之zhi後hou
，出chu去qu吃chi個ge飯fan或huo者zhe喝he點dian東dong西xi，再zai來lai分fen享xiang你ni們men的de經jing曆li。

    聯合反應

    為wei了le得de到dao他ta的de芳fang心xin

，你ni需xu要yao分fen享xiang他ta或huo她ta的de信xin仰yang並bing且qie表biao態tai你ni也ye深shen有you同tong感gan。觀guan察cha他ta或huo她ta對dui外wai界jie刺ci激ji的de反fan應ying，然ran後hou你ni也ye需xu要yao一yi同tong樣yang的de情qing緒xu作zuo回hui應ying--震驚，厭惡
，幽默
，同情等。這對男人來說尤為重要
，因為他們經常錯誤的判斷情況。一定要記住：保證你的反應配合正確的情緒。

    微笑

    yigejiandanqueguanjiandejishu。weixiaoshirangbierenzhidaoniduitaganxingqudezuihaodefangshi，yeshizuiyouxiaodeshentiyuyan。dangnizhengzaiheyigenixiangjiaowangdeyixingduishihuozhejiaotandeshihou，guayigeqianqiandeweixiaozainidezuibian。bunengxiaodetaikuazhang，yaoyundanfengqing。zheshinixiandegengzhenshi，tongshixiandenilangman。

    你怎麼看？

    對男性的提示：拿出勇氣。無論你的女神在談論什麼，簡單的問她：nizenmekan？yexuqichukanqilaihuiyouxie囧
，dannvrenmenzongshixihuantanluntamendeganjiaobieqiezongshijijihuiying。duiyunvshimen，jiuyaoconglingyifangmianshuole。niyinggaidengdaoguanxiwendingzhihouzaiwennanrendeganjiao--否則就有船還沒開就觸礁的危險了。

    提出約會

    男(nan)士(shi)不(bu)應(ying)該(gai)過(guo)早(zao)的(de)邀(yao)請(qing)女(nv)人(ren)出(chu)來(lai)
，以(yi)免(mian)她(ta)認(ren)為(wei)你(ni)隻(zhi)是(shi)迷(mi)戀(lian)她(ta)的(de)美(mei)貌(mao)。理(li)想(xiang)的(de)提(ti)出(chu)約(yue)會(hui)的(de)時(shi)間(jian)是(shi)，當(dang)她(ta)已(yi)經(jing)說(shuo)過(guo)一(yi)些(xie)關(guan)於(yu)她(ta)的(de)個(ge)性(xing)的(de)事(shi)情(qing)之(zhi)後(hou)。比(bi)方(fang)說(shuo)
，她(ta)說(shuo)到(dao)她(ta)的(de)精(jing)神(shen)，那(na)你(ni)就(jiu)說(shuo)希(xi)望(wang)了(le)解(jie)她(ta)更(geng)多(duo)
，也(ye)許(xu)可(ke)以(yi)共(gong)進(jin)晚(wan)餐(can)。女(nv)人(ren)覺(jiao)得(de)一(yi)個(ge)欣(xin)賞(shang)自(zi)己(ji)內(nei)在(zai)的(de)男(nan)人(ren)更(geng)有(you)價(jia)值(zhi)。而(er)對(dui)於(yu)女(nv)士(shi)來(lai)說(shuo)
，可(ke)以(yi)早(zao)一(yi)點(dian)向(xiang)男(nan)人(ren)提(ti)出(chu)約(yue)會(hui)
，因(yin)為(wei)男(nan)人(ren)不(bu)擔(dan)心(xin)被(bei)當(dang)做(zuo)性(xing)玩(wan)物(wu)。

    第一個笑

    另一個明顯但重要的技術。女士們：當你的他講了笑話，一定要笑，而且如果當時有其他人在場，你一定要第一個笑！這樣可以使你們走的更近。男士應該嚐試講一些可愛的私人笑話以建立屬於你們的"語言".這將有助於使你看起來是一個相戀已久的戀人，而不是第一次約會的陌生人。