1. Be funny. Kind-spirited humor can douse a hot argument, head off a fight, and turn the drudgery of household responsibilities and planning into something witty, smart, and hilarious. Stick with warm humor; sarcasm and snide remarks aren't relationship-builders.

    2. Be kissy. Saluting your spouse with a longer-than-usual kiss in the morning, at the end of the workday, and before you say good night telegraphs the good news that you still find him or her irresistible and wonderful.

    3. Be appreciative. You can never appreciate your spouse too much. He or she needs to hear how much you admire the way he or she gets the bills paid, organizes the kids' activities, made that tasty shrimp scampi last night, rewired the basement, cleared out three months' worth of old magazines from beside the couch, or got the trash out to the curb just in time for pickup.

    4. Be surprising. Bring home an unexpected little gift. Get the car serviced before he changes the oil. Deliver breakfast in bed next Saturday （then pop a Looney Tunes DVD into the TV for the kids and lock your bedroom door）.

    5. Be historical. Play the songs you two loved best when you were courting. Bring out your wedding album after dinner and leaf through it together. Bring up the good times from your past -- you'll both get a glow and feel lifted up as you remember your passion.

    6. Be forgetful. Forgive your spouse's human shortcomings, then forget them. Nobody's perfect, especially under stress. （Hmmm … could that include you?） Graciously overlooking flaws, errors, and gaffes sets a sweetly gracious tone for your relationship.

    1. 讓自己變得搞笑一點：善意的開開玩笑可以平息爭吵，讓幹家務這件苦差事變成一件詼諧
、滑稽的事情。但是切記玩笑要開得適宜，且不可有對兩性關係不利的諷刺挖苦的成分。

    2 . 獻上你的親吻： 早晨醒來的時候、結束一天工作的時候甚至說晚安的時候，向你的愛人獻上一個深深的吻，這讓他/她知道在你眼裏他/她還是那麼的迷人。

    3. 欣賞你的愛人：記住"再怎麼欣賞你的愛人都不為過".無wu論lun是shi在zai把ba帳zhang單dan付fu好hao的de時shi候hou，或huo者zhe組zu織zhi好hao孩hai子zi活huo動dong的de時shi候hou，還hai是shi昨zuo晚wan做zuo了le美mei味wei的de龍long蝦xia，把ba地di下xia室shi的de電dian線xian重zhong新xin接jie好hao了le，把ba積ji累lei了le三san個ge月yue的de舊jiu雜za誌zhi從cong沙sha發fa邊bian清qing理li出chu去qu了le， 垃圾拎出門正好趕上收垃圾車的時候
，你的愛人都需要聽到你對他/她的讚美。

    4. 帶給他/她驚喜：回家給他/她帶個意外的小禮物吧。在他給汽車加油前偷偷先把車洗了。 周六的早晨把早餐端到床上去。（給孩子們放《巨星總動員》的動畫片，然後你們倆鎖上臥室門該幹嘛幹嘛吧！）

    5.懷念往昔美好歲月：放放談戀愛的時候你們倆最愛聽的歌。晚餐後把結婚相冊翻出來一起瀏覽一番。談談過去美好的時光--想起往日的愛戀會讓彼此覺得心滿意足
、激情澎湃。

    6. 學會忘記：對愛人的缺點要寬容

，然後忘記它們。人無完人，特別是在壓力之下。（嗯
，你也是那樣的吧
？） 以優雅的方式忽略對方的缺點、錯誤、醜態能夠為你們的關係定下甜蜜、親切的基調。