Sometimes you want to make a good impression with everyone and seem like you're interested in the rest of the group. Especially when you've just met some new people, it's usually better to lean towards the outgoing end of the scale. Getting that "quiet" label often works against those plans. Here are some simple strategies I came up with that help me be less quiet and come up with things to say:

    有(you)時(shi)你(ni)想(xiang)給(gei)他(ta)人(ren)留(liu)下(xia)好(hao)印(yin)象(xiang)，或(huo)者(zhe)想(xiang)要(yao)表(biao)現(xian)你(ni)對(dui)團(tuan)體(ti)中(zhong)其(qi)他(ta)成(cheng)員(yuan)的(de)興(xing)趣(qu)
，尤(you)其(qi)當(dang)你(ni)剛(gang)剛(gang)認(ren)識(shi)一(yi)些(xie)人(ren)時(shi)
，通(tong)常(chang)是(shi)表(biao)現(xian)得(de)外(wai)向(xiang)點(dian)更(geng)好(hao)。被(bei)貼(tie)上(shang)"沉悶"的標簽常常有害無益。以下是我自己想出來的一些簡單的對策，它們幫助我不再沉默寡言，並且能夠有話可說。

    Tell yourself that you have to say something every so often

    提醒自己必須不時說些什麼

    One thing that works for me is to make an explicit rule in my head that I have to say something at least every few minutes, preferably more. If not, I know people may perceive me as quiet. It seems basic, but when I spell it out to myself like this, it forces me to continually try to add new points to the discussion. Before realizing this, I'd hang back and listen to everyone, and take everything in, but sometimes go ten minutes or more without uttering a word. Or I'd get lost in my head and get distracted by my own thoughts and daydreams. You can't do that. You have to talk more often than it feels like you do. Consciously knowing this helps you do it.

    duiwotingyouxiaodeyitiaoshi，zainaozilishuliyigemingxidetiaoli，guidingwobixuzhishaomeigejifenzhongshuojijuhua，huozhegengduo。ruguomeizuodao，womingbairenmenjiuhuijiaodewochenmen。zhekanqilaihenchuji，dandangwoqinkouduizijizheyangshuo，jiunengposhiwozijibuduandichangshiweidangqiandetaolunjiadianliao。zairenshidaozheyidianzhiqian，woweisuobuqian，qingtingmeigerendegaotankuolun，jienatamensuoshuodeyiqie，youshilianxushifenzhong（甚至更久）一yi言yan不bu發fa。或huo者zhe，我wo在zai自zi己ji的de腦nao海hai裏li迷mi了le路lu，被bei我wo自zi己ji的de思si緒xu和he浮fu想xiang攪jiao得de心xin神shen不bu寧ning。你ni不bu能neng那na樣yang。你ni要yao更geng頻pin繁fan地di開kai口kou，而er不bu是shi在zai思si緒xu翩pian翩pian中zhong自zi我wo感gan覺jiao良liang好hao。有you意yi識shi地di明ming確que這zhe一yi點dian能neng幫bang助zhu你ni開kai口kou。

    When you're new to a group of people who all know each other, this rule especially applies. The onus is often on you to get yourself into their conversation. They may all be comfortable with each other, and benignly neglect to actively include you.

    當(dang)你(ni)走(zou)近(jin)彼(bi)此(ci)都(dou)已(yi)相(xiang)識(shi)的(de)一(yi)群(qun)人(ren)時(shi)
，這(zhe)條(tiao)規(gui)律(lv)尤(you)其(qi)適(shi)用(yong)。因(yin)為(wei)參(can)與(yu)談(tan)話(hua)的(de)義(yi)務(wu)通(tong)常(chang)在(zai)你(ni)。他(ta)們(men)可(ke)能(neng)已(yi)然(ran)相(xiang)處(chu)融(rong)洽(qia)，互(hu)感(gan)親(qin)切(qie)而(er)忘(wang)記(ji)了(le)對(dui)方(fang)的(de)存(cun)在(zai)，但(dan)同(tong)時(shi)卻(que)也(ye)忽(hu)視(shi)了(le)你(ni)。

    Don't filter yourself too much when trying to think of something to say

    構思說話內容時，不要過度地自我審查

    Often when I feel like I can't think of anything to say, there are actually lots of potential conversation topics passing through my mind. But instead of going with them, I nix them for one reason or another; "No, I can't say that. It's too boring.", "No, that's too out of the blue.", "Oh, I'm kind of nervous saying that, though I couldn't tell you why." Instead of censoring yourself too much, just spit out some of the ideas passing through your mind.

    通(tong)常(chang)情(qing)況(kuang)下(xia)

，當(dang)我(wo)覺(jiao)得(de)我(wo)實(shi)在(zai)想(xiang)不(bu)出(chu)有(you)什(shen)麼(me)可(ke)說(shuo)，其(qi)實(shi)還(hai)是(shi)有(you)很(hen)多(duo)潛(qian)在(zai)的(de)話(hua)題(ti)從(cong)我(wo)腦(nao)海(hai)中(zhong)穿(chuan)過(guo)。但(dan)是(shi)我(wo)並(bing)未(wei)開(kai)口(kou)，我(wo)出(chu)於(yu)這(zhe)樣(yang)或(huo)那(na)樣(yang)的(de)原(yuan)因(yin)把(ba)它(ta)們(men)扼(e)殺(sha)了(le)。"不，我不能說這個。它太無聊了。""不行，那太聳人聽聞。","哦
，說這個我會有點緊張，不知道是為什麼。"這樣的自我審查就太苛刻了，還是把你腦子裏一閃而過的想法一吐為快吧。

    Don't fret too much about saying generic things

    不必擔心自己的話語平淡無奇

    I've read a lot of advice telling me not to bore people with cliched, unoriginal conversation topics. This has sunk in so much that sometimes I'll find myself paralyzed in social situations. I'll meet someone new and not say anything to them because I think it's a huge faux pas to ask them something uninspired, like where they work.

    wozengjingduguohenduojianyi，tamengaosuwo

，buyaonaweirujilei
，chencilantiaodehuatilairangrenjiaodewuliao。zhegeshuofashenruwoneixinzhishen
，yizhiyuyoushiwofaxianzijizaishejiaochanghexingtongtanhuan。wohuixinrenshiyixieren，quebudasuanhetamenshuodianshenme。yinweiworenwei，ruguowoshuoleshenmerangtamenjiaodehaowuchudongdedongxi，jiushijudadeshili
，liru，xunwentamenzainaligongzuo。

    Just say this stuff anyways. Something is better than nothing. Often, dull questions like, "What do you do for fun?", or "Seen any good movies lately?" get the ball rolling. Soon enough you're talking about something more interesting. They can be a necessary evil, a reliable, if tiresome, fallback. When people ask me questions I've heard to answer a million times before, I'm not always crazy about it, but don't hold it against them either. Ideally you can avoid boring topics, but if you can't think of anything else to say, then go with them as opposed to be quiet.

    就在一般意義上說說這件事吧。有，總是聊勝於無。通常，愚蠢的問題
，如"你喜歡做什麼
？",或"最近看過什麼好電影？"就jiu能neng引yin起qi話hua題ti。很hen快kuai你ni們men就jiu會hui轉zhuan而er談tan論lun一yi些xie更geng有you趣qu的de東dong西xi了le。愚yu蠢chun的de話hua題ti不bu好hao
，卻que又you缺que之zhi不bu可ke，就jiu算suan很hen無wu聊liao

，也ye是shi一yi種zhong穩wen定ding可ke靠kao的de後hou備bei方fang案an。當dang人ren們men問wen一yi個ge我wo已yi經jing答da了le一yi百bai萬wan次ci的de問wen題ti，我wo未wei必bi不bu覺jiao得de要yao發fa瘋feng，但dan是shi我wo也ye不bu會hui怪guai罪zui他ta們men。在zai理li想xiang的de情qing況kuang下xia，你ni可ke以yi避bi免mian涉she及ji無wu聊liao的de話hua題ti，但dan是shi如ru果guo你ni想xiang不bu出chu什shen麼me別bie的de話hua來lai
，那na就jiu用yong它ta們men吧ba，以yi免mian冷leng場chang。

    Take the lead in the conversation if it's not going your way

    控製談話的方向，如果它偏離了你的軌道

    Often I'll be quiet because the people I'm with are discussing something where I have zero to add, usually because I know nothing about the topic. If that goes on too long, then I'm suddenly the quiet one. If the conversation isn't going your way, try to take the lead and switch it to an area where you'll naturally have more to talk about.

    經jing常chang，我wo保bao持chi沉chen默mo是shi因yin為wei同tong處chu的de人ren們men正zheng在zai討tao論lun我wo覺jiao得de無wu話hua可ke說shuo的de東dong西xi，這zhe往wang往wang因yin為wei我wo對dui這zhe個ge話hua題ti一yi無wu所suo知zhi。如ru果guo這zhe持chi續xu得de太tai久jiu了le，我wo就jiu突tu兀wu地di成cheng了le沉chen悶men的de人ren。如ru果guo談tan話hua沒mei在zai你ni的de軌gui道dao上shang，嚐chang試shi引yin導dao和he切qie換huan到dao一yi個ge領ling域yu，你ni自zi然ran會hui有you更geng多duo的de話hua要yao說shuo。

    More generally, if the other people are talking among themselves, and aren't making an effort to include you, you should take the initiative and try to work your way in there. There's no rule that says you politely have to wait for someone to directly address you and ask your opinion on something.

    gengyibandi，ruguoqitarenzaibicishuohua，quebudasuanbanibaokuozaineideshihou，niyinggaicaiquzhudong
，nulibazijifangjinqu。bingmeiyouguidingshuo，nibixulimaodidengdai
，zhidaoyourenlaidiannidemingwenniduimoushideyijian。

    Sometimes you just can't come up with something to say

    有時，你就是無話可說了

    These tips continue to help me, but at times my mind draws a blank. When you can't think of something to say, it's often due to shyness and inhibition interfering with your ability to think freely, and reducing these feelings is easier said than done.

    zhexiexiaotieshiyizhizaibangzhuwo

，raneryoushiwodedanaorengjiuhuiyipiankongbai。dangniwuhuakeshuo，tawangwangshiyouyuxiuseheyayiganganraoleniziyoudisikao，erbimianzhexieqingganshuoqilairongyizuoqilainan。

    The other usual explanation is when you honestly have nothing to contribute to the conversation （e.g., everyone is talking about old friends they have in common）, and it's not appropriate to try and suddenly change it. But here everyone should at least understand that you can't be expected to be too chatty. Try to say something though when the topic changes.

    其他常見的解釋是：你確確實實拿不出能為談話作出貢獻的東西（例如，大家夥在談論他們所共有的老朋友）,而er這zhe時shi試shi圖tu突tu然ran岔cha開kai話hua題ti又you是shi不bu合he適shi的de。可ke是shi在zai這zhe種zhong情qing況kuang下xia

，每mei一yi個ge人ren至zhi少shao都dou明ming白bai，不bu能neng期qi望wang你ni有you太tai多duo話hua可ke說shuo。所suo以yi，一yi旦dan話hua題ti變bian化hua
，就jiu試shi著zhe說shuo些xie什shen麼me吧ba。

    If you do come off as quiet, do better next time

    如果你被人看成是沉默的人，下次做好些就行

    It's not unusual for someone to be a little tongue-tied around a new group of people. If you do better next time, then people will often forget their first impression of you. They'll realize you aren't a snob after all, or that you aren't meek and boring, and that you're actually a pretty interesting person to have around.

    zaiyiqunxinrenshiderenmianqianjiuhaoxiangbeibangzhuleshetou，zheyangdeshibingbushaojian。ruguonixiacizuodegenghaoxie
，namerenmentongchanghuiwangjiduinidediyiyinxiang。tamenhuizhidaonibushishilixiaoren
，yebushisuoranwuweizhibei，shishishang，nizhendeshigehenyouquderen。