1. Get to know your authentic self.

Discover the real you. Don’t blindly accept the role you were conditioned by others to fill. You have your own path to follow. Be your own independent person. Don’t allow peer pressure to force you into an inauthentic role.

2. Own your power.

Accept full responsibility for your life. Don’t live as a doormat, a sheep, or a victim. Stop giving away your power. You must accept that you’re the creator of your life and that no one is coming to rescue you. Many women stressed the importance of taking responsibility for your own financial future instead of leaving it in the hands of a spouse.

3. Find your voice.

Build the courage to express yourself authentically. Speak your truth. You deserve to be heard. If others react negatively, that’s their problem. Ask for what you want; you can’t expect others to be mind-readers. You teach others how you want to be treated — not by dropping hints but by telling them directly. If you don’t speak up for yourself, who will?

4. Find your tribe.

Consciously build and nurture a supportive network of positive relationships, including family and friends. Drop relationships that drain you; maintaining them is self-abuse. If you don’t like your current relationships, it’s up to you to change that. Surround yourself with good people who love you and inspire you. You deserve the very best relationships.

5. Practice self-care.

Avoid overwhelm by taking time to sharpen the saw. Give yourself permission to do what you enjoy. Demands from other people can wait. Accept that you can’t do everything for everyone. You can’t give to others when you’re empty inside.

6. Express your creative side.

Cultivate outlets for creative self-expression. Explore music, art, writing, poetry, etc. Build a business. Be artistic. Put your ideas into physical form.

7. Embrace conscious sexuality.

You and you alone must decide the role sex will play in your life. There are no right or wrong answers. If you want it and enjoy it, let that be enough. Different women had widely varying opinions on what kind of sexual expression they personally preferred, ranging from waiting until marriage to having guilt-free one-night stands. But the commonality was that they consciously decided and accepted what was right for them, regardless of how other people felt about it.

8. Be beautiful.

True beauty comes from the inside. It can’t be found beneath a load of cosmetics and surgical alterations. Recognize that you’re a beautiful person on the inside, and you’ll broadcast that awareness on the outside. You are beautiful.

9. Keep your heart open.

Regardless of how badly you may have been hurt in the past, keep your heart open. You’re stronger than you think. The rewards of love outweigh the risks of being hurt again. You’re here to express love, not to live in fear.

10. Become wise.

You are highly intuitive, so work on deepening your ability to trust your intuition. Keep learning and growing. In the long run, your wisdom will become one of your greatest assets, both as a way to meet your own needs and to help others. (Many women placed a very high value on developing their wisdom.)

Reading all of these pieces was amazingly eye-opening. I offer a huge “thank you” to everyone who chose to participate.

The point of articles such as these isn’t to dictate how you’re supposed to live. The point is to offer you different perspectives to consider, so you can make more conscious and deliberate choices for yourself.

Being a man or woman isn’t about blindly following popular gender patterns, nor is it about rejecting such patterns out of hand and rebelliously embracing their opposites. Ultimately you must define what kind of man or woman you will become. This is a choice you must make for yourself as an individual, regardless of what anyone else thinks. What kind of man/woman do you wish to be? Life awaits your answer…

1，認識你自己。

faxianzhenshideni。buyaomangmudejieshoubierensuoxiguandenidejiaose。niyouzijideluquzou。chengweidulizizhudeniziji。buyaoshiyaliqiangponibanyanbuzhenshidejiaose。

2
，擁有自己的力量。

承cheng擔dan起qi你ni生sheng命ming的de所suo有you責ze任ren。不bu要yao活huo得de像xiang個ge擦ca鞋xie墊dian

，綿mian羊yang，或huo者zhe受shou害hai者zhe。不bu要yao放fang棄qi你ni的de力li量liang。你ni必bi須xu接jie受shou你ni是shi你ni生sheng命ming的de創chuang造zao者zhe。沒mei有you人ren來lai拯zheng救jiu你ni。許xu多duo女nv性xing強qiang調tiao自zi己ji的de財cai政zheng未wei來lai的de重zhong要yao性xing而er不bu是shi放fang任ren於yu配pei偶ou關guan係xi中zhong。

3，傾聽你的聲音。

真實地建立起表達自己的勇氣。說出你的事實。你值得傾聽。如果別人反應很消極，那是他們的問題。問問你想要什麼；你不能指望別人有讀心術。你告訴別人你想被如何對待--不是給出提示而是直接告訴他們。如果你不能為自己大聲說出，還有誰會這樣做呢
？

4，尋找你的部落。

有意識地建立和培養一個積極的關係網絡，包括家庭和朋友
；結束耗著你的關係；維持這些關係是自責。如果你不喜歡當前的關係，由你來決定改變。使圍繞你周圍的都是愛你和鼓舞你的人。你值得擁有最好的關係。

5，實踐自我保健。

避bi免mian過guo多duo的de時shi間jian以yi利li於yu敏min銳rui的de發fa現xian。允yun許xu自zi己ji做zuo喜xi歡huan的de事shi情qing。別bie人ren的de需xu要yao可ke以yi等deng等deng。承cheng認ren你ni不bu能neng為wei所suo有you人ren做zuo所suo有you事shi。檔dang你ni內nei心xin是shi空kong的de時shi，你ni就jiu不bu能neng給gei別bie人ren東dong西xi。

6，表達你的創造性。

培養表達創造性的渠道。探究音樂，美術
，書法，詩等等。建立一套商業模式。使自己更有藝術感。把你的想法變為實物形式。

7，擁抱有意識的性行為。

你ni必bi須xu自zi己ji決jue定ding性xing在zai你ni的de生sheng命ming中zhong扮ban演yan的de角jiao色se。這zhe沒mei有you對dui的de和he錯cuo的de答da案an之zhi分fen。如ru果guo你ni想xiang要yao而er且qie樂le在zai其qi中zhong
，那na就jiu讓rang自zi己ji滿man足zu。個ge人ren喜xi歡huan什shen麼me樣yang的de性xing的de表biao達da，不bu同tong的de女nv性xing有you不bu同tong的de看kan法fa
，有you人ren一yi直zhi等deng到dao結jie婚hun，有you人ren喜xi歡huan無wu罪zui的de一yi夜ye情qing。公gong共gong的de看kan法fa是shi自zi己ji決jue定ding和he接jie受shou對dui他ta們men來lai講jiang，什shen麼me是shi對dui的de
，而er不bu用yong考kao慮lv別bie人ren是shi什shen麼me樣yang的de想xiang法fa。

8，讓自己美麗。

真美發自內心。化妝和整容不能使自己美麗。承認自己內在是一個美麗的人，然後通過外表傳播出去，你是美麗的。

9，打開心靈。

wulunniyiqianshouleduomeyanzhongdeshanghai
，douyaochangkaixinfei。nibizijixiangxiangdeyaojianqiang。aidehuibaozhongyuzaicishoushanghai。nishengzaishishangshiweilebiaodaai，erbushishenghuozaidanyouzhong。

10，明智起來。

你(ni)很(hen)有(you)直(zhi)覺(jiao)，所(suo)以(yi)深(shen)化(hua)這(zhe)種(zhong)能(neng)力(li)，相(xiang)信(xin)自(zi)己(ji)的(de)直(zhi)覺(jiao)。保(bao)持(chi)學(xue)習(xi)和(he)成(cheng)長(chang)。從(cong)長(chang)遠(yuan)來(lai)看(kan)，你(ni)的(de)智(zhi)慧(hui)會(hui)成(cheng)為(wei)你(ni)最(zui)大(da)的(de)資(zi)產(chan)之(zhi)一(yi)
，對(dui)於(yu)滿(man)足(zu)自(zi)己(ji)的(de)要(yao)求(qiu)和(he)幫(bang)助(zhu)別(bie)人(ren)都(dou)是(shi)這(zhe)樣(yang)。（許多女性把增強智慧看的很重。）

讀這些不可思議的開闊眼界。我對所有參與的人大聲地說“謝謝”。

文章並不是要指示你應該如何生活
，而是提供不同的觀點供你參考，使你我自己做出更為深思熟慮的選擇。

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，zheshiyigenibixuzijizuodexuanze。nixiwangchengweishenmeyangdenan/女人?生活等待著你的答案...