“The newest computer can merely compound, at speed, the oldest problem in the relations between human beings, and in the end the communicator will be confronted with the old problem, of what to say and how to say it.”

- Edward R. Murrow

Note: The Blarney Stone is a historical stone, or actually part of the Blarney Castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone can grant you the gift of gab (great eloquence or skill at flattery).

There will always be people who seem to have the ‘gift of the gab’ — they can talk their way into any job, out of any awkward situation and make others laugh. It seems effortless on their part but there is a lot more for you to know about conversation than you may realize. Talk shows; radio programs; public speaking; ordinary conversations; certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words.

It may sound tedious, I know, but even though it’s your mouth that’s doing the work, your brain works extra hard to produce a lot of things you know.

So what better way to start being a more effective communicator than knowing the very person closest to you: yourself.

1. What You Know

Education is all about learning the basics, but to be a confident and effective orator is to practice what you’ve learned.

2. Listening

It’s just as important as asking questions. Practice listening to yourself. Sometimes just by listening to the sound of your own voice you can become more confident in yourself and say the things you believe in with conviction.

3. Humility

We are only too human and therefore we all make mistakes. It’s not uncommon to slur our words, stutter, and probably mispronounce certain words even though we know what it means. So don’t be afraid to ask if you’re saying the right word properly and if the audience is unsure about it then you can always make a joke out of it.

4. Eye Contact

It’s important that you keep eye contact when talking to a large group in a meeting or a gathering, as it conveys confidence and ensures your audience does not ignore you.

5. Humor

A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension, or worse boredom when making your speech, especially when the topic is heavy or the speech long. Also if your speech is after several other speakers, the audience may already be half asleep. With humor, you’ll get the attention of the majority of the crowd and they’ll feel that you’re just as approachable, and as human as those who listen.

6. Social Interaction

Interaction is all about mingling with other people. You’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as knowing what makes people the way they are..

7. Me, Myself, and I

Ever sung to yourself in the shower, or bath? By listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice your speech you can help correct the stress areas of your pitch.

8. With a Smile

A smile can say it all very much like eye contact, as long as it’s natural and not forced. There’s no point on grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering, unless it’s a funeral. You can better express what you’re saying when you smile and people will warm to you more.

9. A Role Model

There must be at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they’re at a public gathering and whom you have admired. Taking a mental note of how they emphasized what they said and what reaction they got can help you once you take center stage.

10. Preparation

Preparation is everything and will show in your speech. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while others learn the speech verbatim. Just be comfortable with what you know and what works for you.

And that about sums it up. These are only suggestions though and they may seem rather amateurish, but they have helped me in any public or private speaking. It also never hurts to be with people and listen how they make conversations and meetings far more enjoyable as well as educational. Copy from the best.

   “即便是最新型的電腦也隻能在速度上調節人類關係的最古老問題
，最後交流者還是得麵臨這一原始問題：該說些什麼

？如何說出口？”——愛德華·默羅

注：巧言石是一塊具有曆史意義的石頭。實際上，它是愛爾蘭布拉尼城堡的一部分，相傳親吻此石後即變得能說會道（善於花言巧語）。

總有那麼一些人似乎“能說會道”- 他們不僅能夠用自己的方式談論任何事情
，擺脫任何困境
，還總是能夠逗得別人發笑。

對dui他ta們men來lai說shuo
，這zhe一yi切qie似si乎hu都dou來lai得de不bu費fei摧cui毀hui之zhi力li。但dan是shi，除chu了le你ni可ke能neng已yi經jing了le解jie到dao的de會hui談tan要yao訣jue外wai
，還hai有you更geng多duo有you關guan會hui談tan方fang麵mian的de知zhi識shi是shi你ni必bi須xu知zhi道dao的de。談tan話hua節jie目mu；廣播節目；公共演講；普通會話；當通過文字互動時，需要應用到一些特定的規則。

wozhidao
，zhetingqilaikenenghuiyoudiandantiaofawei，danshijibianzhishinidezuibazaijinxingyanjiang
，nidedanaoyehaishizaijiweinulidiyunzhuanzhe
，zainaohaizhongyanshengnisuoshuzhidexuduodongxi。suoyi，duiyuxuexiruhechengweiyiminglingrengengweiyinxiangshenkedejiaoliuzhelaishuo，haiyoubilejiezuijiejinnidenageren-你自己本人，來得更好的方式麼
？

1. 你知道什麼

教育隻是學習基本知識。但是
，如何成為一名既自信又令人印象深刻的演講者卻是如何將你所學過的知識進行實踐應用。

2. 傾聽

傾(qing)聽(ting)和(he)發(fa)問(wen)來(lai)得(de)一(yi)樣(yang)重(zhong)要(yao)。練(lian)習(xi)傾(qing)聽(ting)你(ni)自(zi)己(ji)的(de)聲(sheng)音(yin)。有(you)時(shi)候(hou)隻(zhi)要(yao)通(tong)過(guo)傾(qing)聽(ting)你(ni)自(zi)己(ji)的(de)聲(sheng)音(yin)，你(ni)就(jiu)會(hui)對(dui)自(zi)己(ji)感(gan)到(dao)更(geng)加(jia)自(zi)信(xin)
，並(bing)敢(gan)於(yu)說(shuo)出(chu)你(ni)自(zi)己(ji)深(shen)信(xin)不(bu)疑(yi)的(de)東(dong)西(xi)。

3. 謙卑

womendoufeishengren，suoyiwomensuoyourendouhuifancuo。womendouhuihanhufayin，shuohuakouchihuokenengfacuoyin，jibianwomenzhidaozhedouyiweizheshenme
，zhexiexianxiangdoushisikongjianguande。suoyi，qingbuyaohaipaxunwennishifouyongshidangdefangshishuochulezhengquedeciyu。ciwai
，tongchangdangtingzhongduizhegecibingbuquedingshi
，niyekeyiduiciyixiaozhizhi。

4. 目光接觸

在(zai)會(hui)議(yi)或(huo)聚(ju)會(hui)上(shang)同(tong)一(yi)大(da)群(qun)聽(ting)眾(zhong)談(tan)話(hua)時(shi)
，必(bi)須(xu)同(tong)聽(ting)眾(zhong)保(bao)持(chi)目(mu)光(guang)上(shang)地(di)接(jie)觸(chu)
，這(zhe)一(yi)點(dian)尤(you)為(wei)重(zhong)要(yao)。因(yin)為(wei)目(mu)光(guang)接(jie)觸(chu)不(bu)僅(jin)能(neng)夠(gou)傳(chuan)達(da)自(zi)信(xin)，還(hai)能(neng)保(bao)證(zheng)你(ni)的(de)聽(ting)眾(zhong)不(bu)會(hui)忽(hu)視(shi)你(ni)。

5. 幽默

jinxingyanjiangshi

，tebieshidangyanjiangdezhutihenshichenzhonghuoshiyanjiangguoyurongchangshi，yidiandianxiaoyoumoqueshiduitigaojinzhangduhuoxiaochutaoyandeyaneganjuyouyixiangbudaodexiaoguo。tongyangdi，ruguonishizaizhongduoyanjiangzhezhihoucaikaishiyanjiangdehua
，tingzhongmenkenengzaoyichuzaibanhunshuidezhuangtaile。danshi，zhiyaoshiyongyixiexiaoyoumo，dabufendetingzhongjianghuiduinideyanjianggeiyuyidingdeguanzhu。ciwai，tamenhaijiangjiaodenitongtingzhongmenlaideyiyangdipingyijinren，yiyangdirenxinghua。

6. 社會互動

互動即為同其他人的交融。你將會獲得許多的想法。同樣地，你也會知道究竟是什麼讓人們變為現在所見的那個樣子。

7. 我，我自己/我本人

你曾今在淋浴或洗澡時對自己唱過歌麼？練習演講時，可通過傾聽自己的聲音幫助你調節音調的強調部分。

8. 麵帶微笑

隻(zhi)要(yao)自(zi)然(ran)並(bing)主(zhu)動(dong)地(di)微(wei)笑(xiao)
，微(wei)笑(xiao)可(ke)說(shuo)同(tong)目(mu)光(guang)接(jie)觸(chu)來(lai)得(de)一(yi)樣(yang)地(di)舉(ju)足(zu)輕(qing)重(zhong)。除(chu)非(fei)是(shi)在(zai)葬(zang)禮(li)上(shang)

，否(fou)則(ze)在(zai)會(hui)議(yi)或(huo)是(shi)聚(ju)會(hui)上(shang)沒(mei)有(you)理(li)由(you)一(yi)臉(lian)痛(tong)苦(ku)或(huo)鬱(yu)悶(men)。當(dang)你(ni)微(wei)笑(xiao)時(shi)，你(ni)不(bu)僅(jin)能(neng)夠(gou)更(geng)好(hao)地(di)表(biao)達(da)你(ni)所(suo)要(yao)說(shuo)的(de)東(dong)西(xi)，人(ren)們(men)也(ye)將(jiang)會(hui)更(geng)熱(re)情(qing)地(di)回(hui)應(ying)你(ni)。

9. 行為榜樣

在zai你ni生sheng活huo中zhong至zhi少shao得de有you一yi個ge或huo兩liang個ge的de人ren可ke作zuo為wei你ni的de行xing為wei榜bang樣yang。這zhe些xie榜bang樣yang必bi須xu是shi你ni在zai公gong共gong聚ju會hui上shang見jian過guo他ta們men演yan講jiang
，並bing且qie對dui他ta們men讚zan賞shang有you加jia的de人ren。有you意yi識shi地di記ji住zhu他ta們men強qiang調tiao所suo要yao表biao達da內nei容rong的de方fang式shi及ji他ta們men所suo做zuo的de反fan應ying。一yi旦dan你ni站zhan上shang舞wu台tai中zhong心xin時shi
，這zhe這zhe些xie對dui你ni來lai說shuo都dou是shi極ji其qi有you幫bang助zhu的de。

10. 準備

zhunbeishiyiqiedejichu。nideyanjiangshifouzhunbeichongfen，zhezaiyanjiangzhongjianghuitixianchulai。youxierenxiguanzhizaisuoyinkashangxiexiayixiegangyao
，danyouxierenxiguanzhuzizhujudibeixiayanjianggao。nazhongfangshiweinishuzhi，nazhongfangshiduiniyouxiao
，nijiucaiyongnazhongfangshiba。

最後就是關於如何結束演講。我有一些小小的建議：雖sui然ran這zhe些xie建jian議yi看kan起qi來lai相xiang當dang業ye餘yu，但dan是shi，不bu論lun是shi在zai公gong共gong還hai是shi在zai私si人ren的de演yan講jiang會hui上shang，它ta們men確que實shi讓rang我wo受shou益yi匪fei淺qian。同tong人ren們men進jin行xing討tao論lun並bing傾qing聽ting他ta們men如ru何he使shi談tan話hua或huo/會議變得更為愉快，更具教育意義，這一點有百利而無一害。效仿最佳做法。