你想有沒有覺得自己在與別人交流時自認為觀點十分清晰

，然而還是他人還是會誤解
，獲取錯誤的信息
，或者完全不知道你的觀點呢？

    Have you ever thought you were being utterly clear in your communication with someone - and yet somehow they still managed to misunderstand, get the wrong message or completely miss your point?

    或者你不遺餘力的與人為善，可他們卻毫不領情，不去感激你呢？

    Or have you ever gone out of your way to do something nice for someone but they just didn't seem that appreciative or thankful?

    1. yigeshuohuangzhetongchangshibuzizaide，tamenhuizainimenliangrenzhijiansheliyidaopingzhang。suoyidangnimenzuozaiyiqishi，tahuizaizijizuobianhuozheyoubiandezhuoshangfangyixiejiandandexiaodongxi，liruqianbizhilei。

    1. A liar tends to be uncomfortable and will build a wall by placing an object between the two of you. So when sitting down place something simple on the table to their left or right side like a pencil.

    2. 普遍而言，說謊者的身體關節處顯得僵硬，會做出一些呆板的舉動，尤其在他們的腿部。然而他們會極力保持手臂的自然放鬆。

    2.  Often a liars body will become rigid with stiff movement in the joints. Especially their legs and will struggle to keep their arms still and relaxed.

    3. 通tong常chang而er言yan，雙shuang手shou張zhang開kai的de姿zi勢shi表biao示shi對dui方fang和he你ni在zai一yi起qi很hen舒shu適shi，就jiu如ru和he兄xiong弟di姐jie妹mei或huo者zhe配pei偶ou之zhi間jian會hui有you這zhe樣yang表biao現xian。而er說shuo謊huang者zhe臉lian部bu表biao情qing局ju促cu不bu安an，時shi不bu時shi的de用yong手shou指zhi搔sao他ta們men的de太tai陽yang穴xue或huo者zhe鼻bi子zi。我wo們men回hui到dao第di一yi點dian來lai看kan
，當dang你ni詢xun問wen對dui方fang的de時shi候hou，我wo們men將jiang第di一yi點dian提ti到dao的de簡jian單dan的de小xiao東dong西xi變bian成cheng搔sao太tai陽yang穴xue和he撓nao鼻bi子zi這zhe兩liang種zhong無wu意yi識shi的de舉ju動dong，可ke以yi看kan出chu對dui方fang在zai說shuo謊huang。

    3. They fidget with their face, like scratching the sides of their temples or nose. Usually open hand gestures mean they are to comfortable around you. Most likely a sibling or spouse will be like this. Go back to number 1. And change the subject before coming back to the question. It will be an unconscious movement.

    4. 當說話者完全失去如何處理真相以及如何保衛事實或者相對事實的現實可能性時會說謊。

    4.  They completely lose reality with how to deal with the truth and will go on the defensive fighting for the truth or rather their truth. A lie.

    5. 說謊者以一種幽默的方式或者粗魯的評論
，一如既往的將問題拋給你來處理。

    5.  Becomes humored by joking or making a rude comment most likely they usually throw the question back at you.

    6. 當dang與yu之zhi交jiao談tan時shi，他ta們men經jing曆li著zhe一yi係xi列lie情qing感gan變bian化hua。隻zhi有you改gai變bian話hua題ti才cai能neng讓rang他ta們men感gan到dao自zi在zai，當dang然ran前qian提ti在zai於yu你ni不bu進jin行xing深shen層ceng次ci的de追zhui問wen。正zheng常chang來lai說shuo，如ru果guo說shuo謊huang

，他ta們men耳er朵duo和he前qian頰jia處chu會hui泛fan紅hong。

    6. They go through a series of emotions when talking to them, change the subject and make them comfortable again before pursuing further. Watch the color of their ears and front cheeks. They will normal out again if lied to.

    7. 如果你問對方今夜在哪裏過夜，對方向左上方看去，說明在說謊。

    7. If you ask about their location that night and they look up to the left.

    8. 如果你們閑聊關於其他人或者事情的時候向左上方看。如果這個人是右撇子，他會改變看的方向。

    8.  If they gossip or ramble about other people or things they heard they look to the left. If the person is right handed this will change the direction they look.

    9. 當對方會迅速回答：“我不知道。”表明這不是一個值得思考的問題。

    9.  Will give short brisk answer, “I don't know.” Not a question of thought.

    10. 觀察對方脖子上的動脈，特別是男士，留意對方被提問之前脈搏跳動的規律，在對方回答的問題的時候是否加速。

    10. Look for the artery on the neck, especially men, note how it pulses before questioning and on whether it quickens when asked.

    11. 一個情緒激動的謊言者可以會不停的擺弄他的拇指和食指。這是一個不知道如何更好的處理話題的標誌。

    11. A hard emotional lie is detected by whether their thumb and forefinger touch briefly. A sign on not dealing well on the subject.

    12. 說謊者看著你考慮答案的時候，腦袋會向左傾斜。

    12.  They lean their head to the left when looking at you and thinking of an answer.

    13. 說謊者交叉雙臂，以這種無禮的姿勢自我保護。他們呼吸緊促，常常會瞪著你或者試圖看穿你。

    13.Crossed arms is a defensive offensive gesture, looking for fast breathing, usually they tend to stare at you or through you.

    14. 口吃，通常出現於配偶間的欺騙以及當被詢問每晚的常規時。當某人迅速回答說11：00huozheqitashijianzaizuoshenme
，ruguozaiwenyibiantongyangdewenti，tamenkenenghuijiebazheshuochulingwaiyigeshijian

，yexushiyigemohudeshijianduan，danshihediyicideshijianxiangdangdejiejin。tamenweilezhengmingmeiyouqipian。

    14. Stuttering is a given, often done by cheating spouses and their nightly routines. A quick answer of 11:00 or another time. Ask if they are sure and they will stutter a different time maybe not an exact time but pretty darn close to the first time. Trying prove exactness.

    15. 說謊者在交談中咳嗽或者歎息，為了尋找出路並且希望你放棄盤問。

    15. Coughing during the conversation or sighing is looking for a way out and is hoping you'll give up.

    16. 當對方雙手不停摩擦膝蓋顯示出坐立不安，他們會吸鼻並且往下看。主要是因為他們正在不停的出冷汗。

    16. Sniffling and looking down while fidgeting around their knees with the hands. Mainly because of the sweat buildup.

    17. 說謊的人在被詢問的過程中不斷的要水喝，試圖使你疲倦。

    17.  Will need water during questioning, lying dehydrates you.

    18. youxierenbudebushuohuang
，tamenshenzhihuiyongyanqiandeshiwuzuoweihuangyandezhengju。zhezhongrenxuyaoxinlizixun，tamenkenengyouguoyiduanbuyukuaidewangshi。lejieyixiatamendebeijingyexuyousuobangzhu。

    18.Someone that cannot control their lying will still lie with the proof sitting in front of them. This person needs counseling and may have issues in their past. Do a back ground check.

    19. 與習慣說謊的人保持距離，避免談及個人問題。沒有隱私掌握在他們手裏就不會害怕，就意味著不受欺騙。

    19. Keeps you away from certain people or avoids talking about certain individuals. No fear means no lie.

    20. 說謊者會過度真誠的握緊你的手尋找一種舒適的感覺。他或她會為你製造下一個謊言。他們希望你看著他們的眼睛，微笑著對你說：“看
，我從來不欺騙你
，過去沒有
，將來也絕對不會。”回到上文提到的第一點，問：“這是真的嗎？”（這是我最喜愛的一點。）

    20. Becomes needy and over affectionate by trying to touch your hands for your comfort. Another lie, its for his/hers. Will want you to look at them in the eyes, smile at you and say, “Look, I would never cheat on you, I never have before and I never will.” Go back to number 1 by changing the subject and the ask. “Really?”